Are you having trouble with your matches? Are they giving you the cold shoulder? Fret not! We’re here to help!
We’ve all made the mistakes of not knowing what to say to our matches. It ends up in us asking stupid questions, and the conversation turning cold. Not anymore! We’ve gathered the best tips and tricks that will definitely keep your match engaged.
Don’t be afraid to be bold and ask for a date too. There’s nothing you can lose, really. Share some secrets and make sure they have their personal space. You’ll see that applying these will be effortless.
Talk About Your Interests
Do you ever worry about running out of things to talk about? The truth is, that is impossible!
When you cross paths with someone you like, the first thing you think about is: “What should I talk about?”. There are so many things you can use to your advantage. The main thing you can talk about is your interests. We all have at least one thing we’re passionate about.
Also, don’t forget to ask about their interests. Only talking about yourself can be a huge turn-off for your potential matches. Make sure you show interest in them too. That way, they’ll know you really care about getting to know them.
Finding someone with similar interests is great. What happens when your interests don’t match at all, though? You can still stick around and get to know them.
Don’t Ask Stupid Questions
Sometimes a conversation can turn a bit dull. That can prompt you to ask dumb questions. Here’s how not to do that.
Online dating apps (like Tinder) have this amazing feature called biography. If your match has anything written down, it’s a win for you! Why? You can ask them questions about it. Or simply ask them to explain their interests further.
Asking “What’s up?” every time you run out of things to say is not a good move. If you want to find love, you’ll want to know a bit more than what they’re doing.
Plan a Date Immediately!
Some might say you are doing it too soon, but how long are you planning on talking to someone online? Just hear us out.
When it comes to online dating sites and apps, finding someone you really click with can be difficult. But when you do find them, it’s like the gates of heaven have opened. The angels are singing too!
Planning a date right away sends a message that you’re serious about pursuing them. It doesn’t need to be anything fancy. A simple meeting in a coffee shop will do. The point of a date is getting to know them better, after all.
You can also find a fun activity to do together! That way, you’re ensuring there’s stuff to talk about. So if all else fails, talk about how calming painting pottery is.
Show your match that you mean business. That’s how you’ll know in what direction the relationship is going.
Let Your Match Share Their Secrets
If you find your match to be someone you trust, try sharing secrets. And no, we don’t mean the deep dark stuff. You can keep it lighthearted.
You can start by asking or sharing first. Sometimes, people might be reluctant to share their secrets. They might feel like they’ll embarrass themselves. So if encouraging doesn’t work, it’s time for you to take charge.
Share funny or embarrassing things that have happened, but you never told anyone. Like that one time, you laughed so hard you accidentally peed a little (happens to the best of us).
What does this do? Sharing secrets lets the other person know we’re comfortable around them. In turn, it will make us even more comfortable sharing other things. Being vulnerable in this way might be scary, but it pays off.
Isn’t being comfy something everyone should look for in potential partners? We’d like to believe so.
Don’t Be Too Clingy
Finding someone you really like can definitely switch on the clinginess mode. That can be quite off-putting.
We know you want to talk to them all the time. Yes, every second of every day. But they have a life or things to do, and so do you. Having personal space is healthy and vital in every relationship.
If you don’t want to scare your match away, try to keep your clinginess lowkey. You don’t need to message them seven times to make them respond faster. What would you rather have: a genuine or a rushed response? The choice is entirely yours.
Move the Conversation out of The Dating App
Dating apps are cool and all, but people might not use them as much as you’d hope. Here’s what to do if your match is not online that much.
If you like the person and want to stay in touch, ask them to talk elsewhere. There are many messaging apps to choose from. Some don’t even require a person’s number, in case they don’t want to give it yet.
That will send a message that you want to focus on them. You won’t exactly delete your dating app just yet, but you won’t look for other matches. That comes with the expectation that they will do the same. If that’s what you’re after, make sure your intentions are clear so that everyone’s on the same page.
From that point on, anything can happen. Who knows, maybe you’re looking at your next long term relationship. We certainly hope so.
Summary
Keeping your match engaged isn’t such a difficult task after all. All you have to do is be yourself.
It’s important to remember that you can’t force anything. If you see someone else simply isn’t interested, leave them be. It can be hard sometimes, especially when you think you’ve found the perfect person. You do know there’s a lot of fish in the sea, right?
Some people spend a long time searching. But when you do find your match, make sure you apply our dating tips. That way, success is almost guaranteed.
Now go and utilize your newly acquired knowledge.